Don't Sexualize my Kid, Society

 Something I've had beef with lately is the sexualization of children. I'm not talking about just my kids, I'm referring to all children. Some phrases that really stick out to me are "she'll have all the boys chasing her," and "does she have a boyfriend?" Both of these have been said to and about my child. My daughter is four, and already being asked of she has a boyfriend. Whenever a boy's name gets brought up from school, the  assumption is that's her boyfriend. Perhaps I'm being overly critical and thinking into it too much, but it really bothers me. Why do four year olds need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Why can't they just have friends? I would make the assumption that my daughter's sexuality has not been decided yet, I don't want her to grow up thinking she has wrong feelings if she isn't heterosexual. That is literally something she will figure out on her own. I hate that her mind is potentially being poisoned this early on. I have talks with her all the time when the topic comes up that its ok for people to love whoever they want. I'm sure she doesn't quite understand yet, but it's never too early to educate.

 My daughter is four, I have absolutely no idea what she is going to look like when she's older. He face changes constantly. I know the comment that boys will be chasing her is because she is a very cute little girl. I hate that they are just assuming what her life is going to be like. Are my feelings justified? Am I overreacting? I definitely remember the same sorts of comments when I was younger.  I specifically have memories of one of my uncles asking me every time I saw him if I had a boyfriend, he asked until I was eighteen and dating my now husband. This one specific time when I was sixteen, and I was asked if I had a boyfriend, my mother responded by saying " I think she's gay, she hasn't brought any boys home yet." That felt like such an insult to me at the time, not that I would be ashamed if I were homosexual. I felt so offended because she was saying it as if it were a bad thing. I just thought "If I was gay, I would never tell you about it."  Any time I mentioned a boy's name from school, the first question to always be asked was "Oh, is that your boyfriend?" Why was that question never asked when I brought up a girl's name if my parents thought I was gay? I just think its so unfair to assume anything about a person's sexuality. I hope that I never do that to my children. I hope that one day they will just bring their partner home and not even have to explain anything to me. I don't want them to be terrified or embarrassed to share their feelings with us, I want it be the most natural thing. Parents, Aunties, Uncles, Grandparents, Friends, please just try to let our children be children. We aren't living in the 1800s, our sole purpose is not to just be married off at the earliest convenience.