It's You or Me, Kid

 I think it's a fair assumption that us as mother's put our kids first 99% of the time. We want them to soar, and we try to give them the best. I think it is also important that we as parents, as women need to take time for ourselves as well. I am currently a stay at home mom, and my husband works a lot of evenings and every weekend. That being said I am the one that gets up with them in the morning, feed them meals, bathe them, dress them, the list goes on and on. I do absolutely everything for my kids, and my husband gets by doing very little because he works hard to provide an income to support our family. 

I heard a comment from another mom, that stated that the reason she had messy hair was because she got her children ready instead of herself. I think its so important to take even 10 minutes to brush your hair and wash your face every day. I make sure my kids are out of harms reach and lock myself in the bathroom for a few minutes. We all deserve a few minutes to be human. I try my hardest to manage my time effectively. Currently my baby is napping and my 4 year old is playing with slime at the table beside me.. If my baby has to cry outside the door while I put my hair in a neat pony tail then so be it. I don't think I am above anyone, I just choose to use my time more effectively then others. I also like to have a standard for myself when out in public. I prefer to get dressed in somewhat decent clothing and I prefer to have my hair at least combed nicely. If you don't care what people think of you,  more power to you. I unfortunately care what every living soul thinks about me. But that is another topic for another day. It's one of my toxic traits and believe me there are many. 

Mom, take time for a shower, or a tooth brush or whatever you need to do to feel more human. Lock yourself in the bathroom to eat chocolate, Take time to write a blog, bake cookies, knit something. Take the time for yourself and please for the love of everything good and pure, don't regret it. I got to a very dark place at the end of 2020 and into 2021. I was constantly trying to convince myself that I didn't belong on this planet, and that everyone would be better off without some ragey, never taking a moment for herself mom. When my second baby was born, postpartum hit me like a truck, I went several days without brushing my teeth or showering, I know....gross. I lived off of eating chips and chocolate because I didn't care about cooking anything with a nutritional value. I cried myself to sleep every night and only got out of bed every morning to tend to my children. 

Find someone you trust, a friend, family member, coworker...basically anyone you are comfortable leaving your kids with and do something for yourself. Get a coffee and walk around Winners, or just drive around and scream to music you love. I promise you when I say that taking those 10 minutes for myself everyday is what saved my life. If you think you only have time to get either you or the kids ready you are wrong. Make the time. You're a mom, so what if you're a little late.