I'm Ashamed, Mom

 Mom shame is so incredibly real, and it happens to most of us. We all know a crunchy, too good to be true mom. They think they are better then everyone. They only feed their kids organic food, or they have a little genius baby. They don't give sugar or screen time, and for that they are elite. I have 2 beautiful children, I am not perfect and they are not perfect...We are far from it. I do want what is best for them, and do my best. 

My kids get a reasonable amount of sugar, I don't allow juice, but the odd cookie or pack of candy, sure why not? I don't have tablets or phones for my kids, but they sometimes get to watch a show on tv. I don't feed my kids organic anything, but I do make sure they have a good balance of vitamins in their diet. I try to do something of importance to education most days of the week. My kids are in no way geniuses, but they are learning and growing at their own pace. 

Some mom's don't really discipline their children and don't really give consequences. They too are elite. If my child misbehaves we chat about it and I choose the punishment that I think is best. Sometimes I overreact in the moment but I always correct myself and ensure my kids get the apology they deserve. They are people too. 

Sometimes I don't cook supper and let my kids just eat what they want. A bowl of cereal and a cheese string never hurt anyone. Once in a while, its ok. Sometimes the tv is on all day and we don't make it outside. It's Canada, sometimes regardless of the tv, we don't make it outside. We go for a walk a lot when the weather is nice, and sometimes we have a dance party inside. My kids are both very active and enjoy being on the go. 

You know what I am proud of? My daughter has never lied to me. She sometimes hesitates with the truth, but she has never told a lie to my face. My daughter always asks before she does something she normally needs permission for. She has never taken something without asking. 

I know it is so hard not to compare ourselves to the Instagram perfect moms. That's just it, they only show us what they want us to too. We don't see the tantrums and the yelling and the junk food and the bad days. Don't be too hard on your self mom. You're doing the best you can.